• COUPLES COUNSELING

    I offer sessions at my office in Tacoma, Washington.  I also offer convenient online video sessions although in-person is preferable. I am passionate about helping people create better lives and relationships by providing the most updated, effective, and evidence-based methods of counseling available--the Gottman Method.

    In couples therapy, one of my primary goals is to help couples develop healthy ways to resolve conflicts, find compassion, nurture each other, and meet each others needs. I strive to provide an unbiased and supportive environment where couples can feel more comfortable sharing authentically and building emotional intimacy.

    THOROUGH COUPLES THERAPY ASSESSMENT

    I will first schedule an initial assessment session (1.5 hours) together, then two individual sessions (45 mins each). You will also complete a very thorough online assessment through the Gottman Institute, called the "Relationship Checkup" assessment.  I will then have another session together (1.5 hours) to go over the results of the assessment sessions and make a plan together to move forward with.

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    FAQ’S ABOUT COUPLES THERAPY AND MARRIAGE COUNSELING:

    Does couples therapy have to be done on a weekly basis? No. Some couples, especially busy professionals or those living outside of the Tacoma area, prefer to work with me for an entire day, or for several days.

    How many sessions will it take to solve our problems? Each couple is different and unique, so of course, there is not an average number of sessions. Couples therapy begins with a 3-part assessment process where I complete an individual assessment of each partner, and an assessment of the couple as a whole. This assessment provides us with the foundation--a kind of road map--for our work together. Once the assessment is completed, all three of us (you, your partner and your therapist) will decide the frequency and duration of your sessions. The goal of my work is not to make you dependent on me or therapy. Instead, I want to provide you as a couple with the skills and tools you will need to become competent at using the Gottman Method of building a healthy relationship in your daily lives. I will offer you with the clinical interventions necessary to help you achieve that goal.

    What if one of us has a lot of personal issues to work on? Sometimes, individual therapy is helpful for one or both partners who are participating in couples therapy. If I believe that individual therapy is indicated, I will help you in getting matched with an appropriate therapist for your individual treatment. 

    If we are showing some of the "Four Horsemen" (destructive behaviors), which implies that we have a high probability of divorce, does that mean that there's no hope? Should we break up now, even if our relationship seems good to us?  Absolutely not! The most important discovery to come from the research by Dr. John Gottman on divorce prediction is the specific behaviors that couples need to do differently to strengthen their relationships. Changing those negative behaviors that predict divorce to more positive behaviors that predict success can significantly change the trajectory of your relationship and make it better. Everyone is  capable of making small changes that can make big differences in romantic relationships. However, if divorce is on the table, you may want to start with what's called "Discernment Counseling" to determine if you want to stay in the relationship and try to make it work through couples therapy, or if you are ready to leave.

  • COUPLES THERAPY & MARRIAGE COUNSELING IN TACOMA

    All couples go through periods of difficulty, whether due to life transitions, loss, infidelity, or simply feeling disconnected. Choosing to get help by seeing a therapist can be difficult, but it can be the first step towards creating a better relationship.

    GOTTMAN THERAPY FOR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

    In working with couples, I have expertise in the most scientifcally-based method of couples therapy, Gottman Couples Therapy, which is founded on well-researched evaluation tools and structured sessions. We teach practical relationship skills targeted to your specific needs, and facilitate new ways of discussing problems in the relationship. 

    MARRIAGE WORKSHOPS IN TACOMA

    I offer several weekend relationship improvement workshops for couples.

    THE 7 PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK: A WORKSHOP FOR COUPLES

    This program is based upon the New York Times best seller, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" by Dr. John Gottman, PhD. Straightforward in its approach yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this groundbreaking book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Contact me for information on my next workshop.